The Liar

I don't know if I'm hurt, sad, upset, disillusioned or what. In my life, long to some of you and short to others, depending of from what end of the age spectrum you're looking at me from, I've become acquainted with many types of people. A very few I consider my friends, some I consider my enemies, most are just people who have crossed my path but any one who knows me knows I try to learn from all of them. Of all those I've met I've learned there are certain types of people I can't stand. Among the top are thieves and cheats but the worst one are the liars. You see the thief steels from you and you learn you can't leave your stuff out. The cheat, well they cheat you and you learn you can't play games or make dealings with them. Both fall under the "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me" rule of life.

The liar, however, the liar is another animal all together because they are all three and yet worse than the others combined. You see you don't know where you stand with a liar. You don't know if your friendship is real or fake. If they like or dislike you. If they love or hate you. Are they just using you? You don't know if what comes out of their mouth is truth or fiction. With the liar you never know if you're being lied to. You don't know what you can and can't believe so you're better off not believing anything they say.

The worst type of liar is the one you considered a friend. They're even worse than a family member who lies to you because you choose your friends. Which means you're a poor judge of character because you invited this liar in to your life. You can't choose your family but your friends are completely up to you. Unfortunately by the time you realize you've been duped, lied to or used, you have an emotional relationship with that person. How do you just dump someone out of your life after they've become a part of it? Life isn't like MySpace. You can't just delete them from your friends list and have that be the end of it. Regardless, they are someone you allowed to become your friend which adds insult to injury. Yes, injury. It rips your heart out when a "friend" lies to you.

You see, when someone you don't know lies to you it's no big deal. Move on and don't deal with them again. When it's a "friend" you learn very quickly it was a one way relationship. I say this because the liar never take into consideration how their lies will effect your life outside of your "friendship". You see their lie could endanger you, your other friends, your family or your loved ones. The liar doesn't care. Which means you don't matter to them even if they say you do. This makes your heart hurt even more because the one that betrays you has gained your trust to some extent. You've shared things with them, they've become a part of your life. That's what a friend is supposed to be. That's why you call them your friend.

Oh well, chalk it up to another life lesson. We live, we learn. Don't take this as a warning to not trust others because that's not my intent. I still love my true friends and I'll go to the depths of hell for them to this day. I don't believe "One bad apple" that's too easy. It just means I have room for a new friend.

All secrets are deep. All secrets become dark. That's in the nature of secrets.